It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.
It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.
But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.
I do, though it is rarely updated. I’m talking 1 photo, and this was before my stay in Manhattan.
Kinda waiting for the Note 4, the new iPhone, or preferably the Project Ara phone before I really start updating things. With my current camera’s lack of pixel quality, I just don’t see the point right now, you know?
Still, feel free to message me if you’d like to follow me on there.
Drawn - Group Exhibition, 2014
Mark Lanegan | I Am The Wolf (live on KEXP)
— Phantom Radio (TBA 2014)